I see being male and paying for dating sites as akin to being male and paying a dominatrix: Essentially you’re paying to be ignored, judged, humiliated, insulted and rejected in an attempt to find happiness……..at extortionate cost. At least with a dominatrix you get some cool scars.
The irony of women is that they don’t want a man who needs a woman and want one who isn’t all that bothered about them. How do you be sexy as a man? You stop trying but ironically, absurdly, you only really stop trying when you’re not all that interested. So then she’s really interested in you and you’re not. There is a certain stage where you’re expected to be really into them………but before this is the stage where they’re attracted to you because you’re not really all that bothered about their existence.