You know how occasionally you come across one of those, “What would you tell you n year old self?” type things?
So I’m at the bar and I have my blazer on, because I love the thing to death. Under it I have my white Oxford shirt and a pair of jeans. I’m still radiating Blue de Chanel. In front of me and a little to my left are these two women, maybe 18-19, skinny, scantily clad and made up to the nines waiting for their drinks. I’m way taller than them so I’m looking clear over their heads keeping an eye on the bar, waiting my turn, nodding hello to the bar staff that I know. I’m deliberately not engaging with the women, not even looking directly at them but they’re in my peripheral vision and they’re looking around the bar too so they can see me.
Eventually I casually glance over them, as in I’m looking right over their heads to see if the bar still has that bottle of Talisker, and immediately they both start flicking their hair like mad, just constantly doing it. I look away and they stop. I look back over them and they start up again. I don’t even acknowledge their presence, I don’t even directly look at them.
I’d tell my 18 year old self that this kind of stuff would be quite common one day.
Also, is it me or do younger women really dress in a hypersexual way these days? Women have always worn skin tight clothes, shown their cleavage, their legs, their midriff, all that. I don’t remember women going around braless with basically an open top or braless while wearing a white T-shirt. So often over the past two years I’ve seen women who for all intents and purposes are showing the world their nipples and I’m pretty sure that never used to happen.
I have this hypothesis about this: So in the past people would be married in their early twenties and divorce was really hard so the competition for mates was quite a lot lower, people just grabbed whoever and then tried to make it work; they had a lot lower expectations.
Then feminism and the sexual revolution came a long and told women not to settle for anything less than the ideal man. Thing is, women don’t find many men all that attractive and so it’s kicked off an arms race. Eighty percent of women are now fighting for twenty percent, at maximum, of men.
I remember female obesity being a real thing when I was in my early twenties, most women were quite a bit overweight. I remember my male friends and I would sit in bars and clubs and we’d complain that all the women were fat. That’s changed, now they’re all really slim and I think that’s down to this arms race. If a woman wants a high quality guy then she has to out compete all the other women in a way that women have never had to compete with each other before and it’s become cut throat. It’s at the point where going braless to get an edge has become a thing.